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On Wednesday I had a little cooking class that I wanted to go to.  Not that I was particularly interested in cooking, I was just really looking forward to getting out without a child attached. Wow, that's sad. Anyway, I filled Jake's tummy and tucked him in bed and left Jared with the kiddos.

 A little while into the cooking class, I text Jared.  Finally I get a text that went something like this "He woke up right after you left. I tried bathing him and feeding him. He is still upset." I got up and walked out of the class and went home.

I wish that I could attach the voicemail Jared left me with Jake screaming in the background. It's pretty funny.

I get home to Jake who is freaking out. He's throwing up and screaming. I pick him up and minutes later he is laughing and playing with us on the floor.

Amount of time spent without children in the past 3 weeks (maybe longer) = 35 minutes.

Good thing I love them.

Any advice is welcome. I seriously need an outlet. I may go insane.

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  1. I'm in the same game. I just try to think I've got four months down and eight more to go. Usually when they turn one they start liking Dad, or will let Dad watch them. I do go to the gym, but I come home to a sad baby doll! Hang in their, I have to tell myself that everyday!

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  2. Maybe I just got lucky with Marley because she wasn't like that -- at least not to the point of making herself throw-up because I was gone.

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  3. I hate the age when they realize it isn't mommy. Dash is into it too. My advice, get someone reliable to come every week at the same time. Schedule yourself this hour or longer so you will do it. Give Jake at least one bottle a day. And DON'T FEEL GUILTY!!!!

    I know easier said than done. Dash has put Shad through similar nights.

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  4. Thanks Al. I am trying to think of someone reliable that I could get every week. I just feel like a yw is too young to handle them both and I don't really have anyone else. He has refused the bottle for months now. He would rather cry himself to sleep that drink from a bottle. He is eating solids now so I figure he can eat a solid if he's hungry while I'm gone.

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  5. Sorry friend. No advice here. There a lot of perks to being a woman, aren't there.;)

    Love you. You are a great mommy...if that's any consolation. It's the truth.

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  6. Sadly, mutual on Wednesday nights are my "night out"! Pathetic huh? But I can always guarantee that I will still get a phone call or text at some point from the hubby during the measly 2 hours that I'm gone, wondering where something is or why one of the girls is doing something weird...

    The gym is another one, but motivating myself to go is just a chore in itself!

    I also say, even though it may seem a little harsh, is go do your thing and allow Jared to take care of it. Jake may be sad and Jared may be at his wits end, but maybe they just need that bonding time!! :) Easier said than done, right!!! :) Hang in there. And yes, you are a GREAT mommy!

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  7. Having two kids is an adjustment! Especially, when you are nursing. Here's the thing...when you are home all day/all night with the kiddos you start to go crazy and need some time away. But when we are away, we call home to check in. If you can...don't text or call. Jared knows how to get a hold of you if it is a dyer emergency and he will call. You really do need that time away. I've told Judd, unless it is an emergency, not to call because I have to figure out ways to calm the kids when he is gone; and vice versa. It will make you a better mom when you get back if you've had some time away. So, if you can, don't call or leave early. Let Jared contact you, if it is necessary. Hang in there! Love you!

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  8. Here is my advice: leave your children with a very capable adult (such as myself) and spend some time reading a book, running errands, doing anything you want. Seriously...call me!

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  9. My "alone" time is jogging (pushing a stroller and chasing a kid on a bike). The exercise is what saves me. Luckily Andy likes the stroller. It gives me time to sweat and think; I'm a better/nicer mom for it. I've resigned myself to the fact that I have another several months before I can do anything sans child. The joys of nursing!

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  10. Yes, I think if Jake would stay in the stroller it would help. I got a Bob double jogging stroller in anticipation of him coming and he refuses to sit in it. I keep trying -- hopefully soon he won't scream when I put him in it and I can get some exercise.

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  11. I hear ya!! I'm so sorry. I have found a great outlet through going to the gym every morning and taking a workout class. Will goes to the daycare at the gym. It took him a while to adjust, but now he loves it and it's good for him to be without me for that hour everyday and play with others. I think WIll would have adjusted better if I would have started doing this earlier in his life. The daycare ladies were really nice though, and would just sit with him if he would cry. Try it!

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  12. I've been going to a work out class at 5:30 in the morning (before Beau heads out to work) and the kids are all still asleep by the time I get home. I have been loving having time away and being with other people and the kids don't even know I am gone.

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  13. I also think the gym would be great. Maybe I will try to go this week. I know he will freak out at the daycare. He freaks out with Jared even when I am here. Today Jared took Jake for like 15 minutes while I blow dried my hair. Jake puked 2x he was so upset. Jared leaves the house by 5 or 5:30 every morning, so working out while the kids are asleep and he is here isn't really an option.

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  14. i clicked to read the advice people gave, because I ain't got nothing!! Although, I have put Corynn in her crib, because I know she's safe there... and just let the other kids run wild while I locked myself in the pantry with some cookie dough... wishing and praying their childhood away - for it to all pass.

    It hasn't worked yet.;)

    The nursing thing is hard, and that attatchment issues are hard too... but it WILL pass! In the meantime, call up that "the riding family" girl and let her help out! Your kids are cute, people always want to watch CUTE kids!

    Hang in there... meanwhile... blog about your insanities because we can ALL relate to them!

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